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What Your Smartphone Etiquette Says About You

Here's how not to come across as self-centered and annoying.

Key points

  • Leaders who exhibit poor smartphone etiquette often unknowingly tarnish their leadership effectiveness.
  • Weaponizing your cell phone through a lack of proper decorum negatively impacts productivity and morale.
  • By adopting better smartphone habits, leaders can create environments where team members feel valued.
Source: Davide Angelini / AdobeStock
Source: Davide Angelini / AdobeStock

In the digital age, where our smartphones serve as extensions of ourselves, it’s undeniable that our etiquette in handling these devices speaks volumes about our character and leadership prowess. Leaders are not just defined by their actions in the boardroom or their ability to inspire; they’re also defined by the subtler nuances of their behavior, like the way they use their smartphones.

Indeed, how we navigate the digital landscape, particularly our smartphone etiquette, offers profound insights into our respect for others, our ability to prioritize, and our overall professionalism. Yet, it’s often overlooked that poor smartphone etiquette isn’t just a minor annoyance—it’s a glaring indicator of potential leadership pitfalls.

In fact, a leader’s propensity for acting like a jackass can be readily discerned from their disregard for basic smartphone decorum.

How We Show Who We Are by Our Smart Phone Decorum

Leaders who exhibit poor smartphone etiquette often unknowingly tarnish their leadership image and diminish their effectiveness.

For example, constantly checking their phones during meetings or conversations signals a lack of presence and respect, alienating team members and damaging trust. Likewise, leaders who prioritize virtual interactions over face-to-face communication risk fostering a disconnected and disengaged team culture. This behavior not only undermines morale but also impedes collaboration and innovation.

Additionally, sharing sensitive or inappropriate content through digital channels can lead to embarrassment, damage to reputation, and even legal consequences.

In essence, a leader’s disregard for smartphone etiquette not only reflects their personal manners but also highlights broader issues such as communication breakdowns, lack of consideration for others, and an inability to set appropriate boundaries—all of which can significantly hinder their leadership effectiveness.

What Can You Do to Fix the Situation?

Is your cell phone use making you come across as self-centered and annoying? Here are a handful of simple suggestions that you can put into place to improve your standing as a leader:

  1. Think of Others: Turn your phone off in meetings and all special business gatherings.
  2. Use Some Class: Don’t choose an obnoxious or loutish ringtone.
  3. Remember, We’re Not Your Audience: Don’t use your phone in enclosed public places like elevators, restrooms, or planes. We don’t want to hear your conversation.
  4. Keep It Down: Lower your tone when talking on your phone in public. Despite what you may think, people around you are not impressed with what you have to say to someone on the phone.
  5. Keep It to Yourself: Playing loud music or videos without using headphones in public spaces forces others to listen to content they may not want to hear, and it can be annoying and intrusive.
  6. Have Some Guts: Deliver important news in person or in a private phone call. Texting is a coward’s way out in these situations.
  7. Give Us Your Full Attention: Don’t text or check your phone when speaking to others. It’s just rude.
  8. Don’t Turn on Your Speakerphone: Using a speakerphone in crowded or quiet public workspaces can disrupt the environment and invade the privacy of those around you. Truly, no one wants to hear your phone conversation.

To Close

Improving smartphone etiquette at work is not just about adhering to rules; it’s about fostering a culture of mutual respect and thoughtfulness. By consciously adopting better smartphone habits, leaders can create environments where team members feel valued, heard, and appreciated.

Remember, in the grand scheme of leadership impact, people don’t so much remember what you said as much as how you made them feel. Weaponizing your cell phone through a lack of proper decorum shapes perceptions, harms relationships, and negatively impacts productivity and morale.

So, let’s commit to using our smartphones mindfully, prioritizing meaningful connections over digital distractions, and ensuring that every interaction leaves a positive and lasting impression on our team and the colleagues around us.

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